Your kink list, yours to share
Nothing you mark is stored on our servers — your answers travel inside the link itself. How that works
Get your type, not just a list
A list of boxes tells you what you like — it can't tell you who you are. The 16Kinks test names your type, unpacks why each thing turns you on, and gives you the how: what to try next, and the words to talk it through with a partner.
Take the testA free, private checklist for what you're actually into — and an easy way to see where you and a partner line up.
- 1Mark each thingGo down the list and tap Yes, Maybe, or No — whatever's honest for you.
- 2Get your private linkOne tap turns your list into a link. Send it to a partner — no account, no waiting.
- 3See where you matchOpen their list beside yours: your shared green lights, what's worth a talk, and each other's limits.
Grouped by the 16Kinks framework — the axes and traits the test measures.
This is a conversation starter, not a contract. A yes is still negotiable, a no is final, and everything real gets talked about first.
What is a kink list?
A kink list — also called a yes/no/maybe list or a BDSM checklist — is simply a list of activities you go through and mark one at a time: want it, curious, or not for me. It's the classic tool couples and the kink community have used for years to figure out what they're actually into and to see where two people line up, without anyone having to blurt it all out loud.
This one is free, needs no account, and is grouped by the 16Kinks framework — around 52 kinks and desires across nine areas: power and control, sensation and body, restraint, the mind and words, intensity, showing and watching, roles, primal play, and ritual. You mark each one, turn your answers into a private link, and compare with a partner. Nothing is stored on our servers — your answers travel inside the link itself, so you decide who ever sees them.
What you can do with it
On your own, it's a low-pressure way to name what turns you on — including things you've never had the words for. With a partner, it becomes a kink compatibility check: send them your link, they fill in theirs, and you see your shared green lights, the maybes worth talking about, and the limits to respect. It's just as useful early in a relationship, at a distance, or years in — a way to keep the conversation about desire honest and ongoing.
Common questions
What is a yes/no/maybe list?
It's the same idea as a kink list: a checklist of activities you each mark yes, no, or maybe, then line up side by side to compare. Ours does the lining-up for you — send a partner your link and it shows only where you overlap.
Is the kink list free?
Completely free. There's no account, no login, and no paywall to mark your list, get a link, or compare with a partner.
Is it private? Where do my answers go?
Nothing you mark is stored on our servers. Your answers are encoded into the share link itself, so they only exist where you send them — you're always in control of who sees your list.
How do I compare kinks with a partner?
Mark your list, tap to get your private link, and send it however you like. When your partner opens it they fill in theirs, and the compare view shows your shared yeses, the one-yes-one-maybe items worth exploring, and each other's boundaries.
What if we don't match on something?
That's the whole point of doing it. A “no” is final and gets respected — no means no. A “yes” or “maybe” is just a starting point for a conversation, never a to-do list. You always decide your own real limits.
How many kinks are on the list?
Around 52, grouped into nine areas by the 16Kinks framework — from power and sensation to restraint, primal play, and aftercare. Enough to be thorough without being a chore.
Want to know why you're into what you're into?
A list tells you what you like — it can't tell you who you are. The free 5-minute 16Kinks test names your type, unpacks why each thing turns you on, and gives you the how: what to try next and the words to talk it through.